If you are a woman, today’s writing is for you.
Please take a minute to read and find my deep appreciation for your mothering in the lives of people you care for.
Mother : 1. (verb) to care for or protect like a mother. (Merriam-Webster)
2. (verb) to bring up a child with care and affection, “the art of mothering” (dictionary.com)
To the woman who carried, gave birth to, and raised me—Thank you. I would not be who I am without you.
But not just her.
To the women who were big sisters, aunts, and older cousins, blood relation or otherwise. You offered a consistent, fun, and wise guiding presence in my life.
To my teachers in elementary school, Sunday school, childhood activities, and sports. You helped me grasp foundational concepts I would need throughout my entire life. Thank you for your hard work and patience.
For the compassionate and discerning women in my life during the awkward middle school years. You recognized gifts in me and spoke up. You showed me how to cultivate talents and gave me opportunities to strengthen weak areas— like math skills and remaining calm while singing in public (even though you had to know, barring divine intervention, there were no future career possibilities in either 🙂 ) You pushed me just enough so that I would learn to overcome, but always waited with grace in the background no matter how things turned out. You were there through “weird” body changes and defining life events—like moving to new places and adapting to new schools. To the women who were there for me during years eleven through thirteen…you are saints. Thank you.
For High School and University teachers, mentors, employers, and older friends— with grace and love, you spoke difficult truths I didn’t want to hear that forced me to consider ugly parts of my personality. In some ways I’m different because of that (even if it took a few years). You helped me develop creative abilities, habits of discipline, and equipped me with decision making tools to carry into the next phase of life. You were listening ears and solid advice givers in navigating friendships and dating relationships. You clearly saw the beauty and spark God placed in me while I was still realizing it. Your consistent, gentle guidance gave me courage and motivation I would need for the journey of bravely and unapologetically becoming myself. You offered faithful friendship and the freedom to discover life in my own way. It is not an easy undertaking to “mother” young adults. Thank you for the hours of your life you poured into mine.
Experiencing God and life as a wife, mother, and international worker has been and will continue to be an adventure filled with indescribable blessing, deep sadness, and unanticipated events. Through my twenties until today, there have been mentors who have shared life with me for a season, and some who remained. God knew I needed all of you. We’ve shared laughter, tears, and everything in between. You’ve sharpened me and I hope I’ve added blessing to your life as well. I’m eternally grateful for your life on life, relational style of discipleship.
Thank you for caring, loving, and teaching. Thank you for being in my life. Thank you for your investment.
Thank you for Mothering.
❤ , Chrissy
©2018 Chrissy Winslow – All Rights Reserved
*Proverbs 27:17, 1 Timothy 4:12, Proverbs 22:6, Titus 2:3*
“One of the greatest values of mentors is the ability to see ahead what others cannot see and to help them navigate a course to their destination.” – John Maxwell
“Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction.” -John Crosby
“The delicate balance of mentoring someone is not creating them in your own image, but giving them the opportunity to create themselves.” -Stephen Spielberg
“What I think the mentor gets is the great satisfaction of helping somebody along, helping somebody take advantage of an opportunity that maybe he or she did not have.” -Clint Eastwood
“In order to be a mentor, and an effective one, one must care. You must care. You don’t have to know how many square miles are in Idaho, you don’t need to know what is the chemical makeup of chemistry, or of blood or water. Know what you know and care about the person, care about what you know and care about the person you’re sharing with.” –Maya Angelou
“Show me a successful individual and I’ll show you someone who had real positive influences in his or her life. I don’t care what you do for a living—if you do it well I’m sure there was someone cheering you on or showing the way. A mentor.” -Denzel Washington