Changing Expectations & Becoming Myself
Someone once asked for my thoughts about timing to give my book to a friend who miscarried and for some ideas on what to say about the loss. I carefully shared my thoughts with her. Occasionally I still think about this conversation. Today something brought it to mind, so I talked about it with my …
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-Here is the second part of my post from last week- 4. In the months and years following the miscarriages, were there any subjects in our marriage that were sensitive to discuss? Daniel: Yes. Whether we wanted to try to add more children to our family. We had very different opinions about the issue …
Continue reading Marriage & Miscarriage. A Conversation with My Husband. Part 2.
My husband and I had a good conversation this week. I asked him several questions to better understand his perspective on the last few years of our lives. He chose a few parts of our conversation for me to share in this post. We pray it is a source of encouragement for people who have …
Continue reading Marriage & Miscarriage. A Conversation With My Husband. Part 1
*Technically this is the final part of my post on Responding to Unwelcome Words, but it became something else as well* Fitful. Fretting. A to do list longer than the hours in my day. Inner turmoil. Excessive busyness. Too much. I couldn't focus on anything well, but was determined to get it all done. I …
Continue reading Beloved. Remember Who You Are.
Why do unsolicited words about the size of my family sometimes hurt so much? Do I fear others may be right—that my family should be different? Maybe I did something wrong to cause the miscarriages even though the doctor said otherwise? Do their thoughtless words remind me of something I don’t like— that there are …
Continue reading What I Have to Know About Myself. Responding to Unwelcome Words. Part 3
Here is the second part of my post about responding to unwelcome words. James 1:19 "...Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry." When I was jotting down thoughts, I realized there are three things I usually think about when responding to uninvited comments about miscarriage or having …
Continue reading Responding to Unwelcome Words. Part 2.
“Which ones are yours?” asked the man at the picnic table to the left of mine during soccer practice. “The one with strawberry blonde hair and freckles.” I was getting ready to ask about his family, but he interrupted. “Only one? Why? Why don’t you want more kids than that?” He asked with an unblinking …
Continue reading Responding to Unwelcome Words. Part 1. You have GOT to be kidding me!
I want to finish my post from last week by sharing some specific things that helped our preschool age daughter after my first miscarriage. I'm not a professional when it comes to helping families deal with grief, but I'll share from my experiences as a parent. Daniel and I made sure our own emotional and physical …
Continue reading Part 2. My Preschool Age Daughter & My First Miscarriage
